Grief touches all of us at some point in life, and it can feel overwhelming, isolating, and unpredictable. At Orchard Park Hospital, we believe it’s important to provide compassionate guidance for those navigating the difficult journey of loss. The following reflections, shared by our Director of Clinical Services, John J. Antal, MSW, LICSW, offer practical reminders and gentle encouragement for anyone walking through grief.
Welcome all of your emotions, such as anger, guilt, sorrow, fear, denial, resentment, shock, dread, etc.
There is no “Time-Table”. Do not pressure yourself. Four to six months post loss may be the most difficult with which to deal.
Numbness is expected. Feeling “nothing or empty” or feeling like you will never “feel anything again” is common. It will wear off and life will develop a “new normal”.
Take time off from school or work if need be. “Me-Time” is a must. “Space” from others may also be necessary.
Turn to your faith for strength. Pray or meditate to help “center” yourself.
Delay decision-making. Do not make hasty or drastic changes too soon. Give it at least one year before making any major changes.
“Time” may assist in the healing process. “Time” itself does not heal all wounds, but “effort, persistence, and acceptance” will help.
Be mindful of the first year. That is when you will experience all of the “firsts”… first holidays, first family gathering, first birthday without that special someone.
Grieving is a normal process. Let it happen.
Grieving can take physical forms, such as sleepless nights, headaches, body aches, fatigue, tension, etc.
Grieving may change your behavior. You may become upset more easily; frustrated more quickly; less social; etc.
Grieving may worsen before it improves. It is always “darkest before the dawn”.
Grieving will lead to more balanced feelings. This is needed to “put all the puzzle pieces” of emotion together again, such as happiness, sadness, anger, jealousy, joy, fear, etc.
Closing Thoughts
Grief looks different for everyone, but no one has to walk through it alone. Whether you are just beginning to face loss or are further along in the process, remember to give yourself permission to feel, to rest, and to heal at your own pace. If you find that grief becomes too heavy to manage, professional support can make a meaningful difference. At Orchard Park Hospital, our team is here to provide care, compassion, and guidance for anyone struggling with loss.
